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FOMO Among Working Mommas

I remember when my little Everly first rolled over. Tears streamed down my face as I sat at my desk looking at the video that was sent to me so that I could see it. I remember wishing that she could've held off until momma got home at 5:00 and wondering if going back to work was the best decision for me. That's the thing with kids. They are completely unpredictable. There's just no telling when they are going to take that first step, say that first word or in my recent parenting world, starting to use the potty. 

I love following a lot of moms on social media. There's nothing like feeling like you have the support of moms worldwide and of course my local mom squad! Along with that following comes mixed emotions. At times when I see that mom who potty trained her kid long before they turned two, that working mom who took a week off to do just that or even that mom who's on Instagram snuggling her babies over morning coffee, I can't help but get a little emotional or at times a little jealous. If there's one thing that we can all relate to, it's the lack of time and longing for more; more of those little moments with our kids; more me time; more time in general. When you add children to the mix, that time switches over to hyper speed and every day is a race to keep up! 

FOMO or "fear of missing out" is something that I've found myself struggling with. I don't talk about it very often as I always put my strong mom face on. But I also think it's something that we should talk about more. Missing those firsts, because we're off making a living and building a life for our families can be a tough pill to swallow sometimes. Every now and then there's that one person who just doesn't understand. They say "Why don't you just stay home?" or "I would never miss out on this time with my kids." Honestly, do these people really think that I truly don't want to be with my kids more? Here's the thing. My family needs things like......a roof over their head, dinner on the table, clothes, shoes, essentials!

Here's a little insight into life as a working mom. As soon as I wrap up my day in the office. I immediately switch from Digital Marketing Manager to Mother and Housewife. Sometimes it's tough to channel my energy away from my task list at work to my duties at home, but I've learned just how important it is to give your family that undivided attention that we miss during the day. Essentially, I have not one, but two full-time jobs. Coming home to those smiling faces (most days), hugs and "I missed you's" make it all worth it. Honestly, I enjoy having a career. I enjoy doing something for "me" that I am good at. I feel like that time away, even though I miss my kids, truly does keep me sane. Now if someone could just eliminate the laundry and house cleaning from my second full-time job, that would be much appreciated! 😉

To my kids, I will forever want you to know that I did it all for you. I want you to know that any time we get to spend together means the world to me, even if it's just a trip to the park or a movie on the couch. I want you to have the very best life possible. I want to be able to help you with college some day. I want to be able to take you on trips to see as much of the world as possible and I want you to never have to go without. I hope that one day you'll look back on your childhood with nothing but fond memories. 


August 17, 2017 - Rhylan's First Day of 1st Grade


A shoutout to my fellow working mommas. Keeping doing what you do! It doesn't go unnoticed. Here's to work days, long nights and everything in between!



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