Skip to main content

Chaos, Lovable Chaos

"Mom, he's pushing me."
"Mom, she won't get out of my room."
"Mom, they are irritating me!"
"Mooooooommmmmm!"

Isn't if funny how our kiddos can push us to the absolute brink of insanity? I find my inner thoughts saying, "Okay Crystal. Today's the day you finally go crazy. It's happening." Yet, when I'm away from those stinkers, I long to be around that chaos. I truly enjoy going to work. I know....right? That's nuts, but I do. Yet early afternoon rolls around and I find myself counting down to quitting time, so I can go home and just hug all three of them.

Even though 90% of the time between siblings (in my house anyway) is spent seeing what they can do to push each other's buttons, there are sometimes these sweet moments of peace and playtime. Those moments where despite the bickering and the tattling to mom, you can truly see that they love each other. My favorites are when I'm just sitting down (most likely next to a laundry pile) with the tv off and can hear their chats, imagination and playtime together.

If there's anything that adulthood has taught me, it's that in the end, family is the absolute most important thing. My sister and I were once those siblings, constantly picking on each other, starting fights and tattling to our parents. Today we are the best of friends. That friendship is something I wish for my own children someday. My twins will always share a bond, but I want their friendship to evolve as they grow up. And I want my son to have two sisters, two female perspectives to value and guide him through life.

So when you have a bad day and you think "today is the day I go crazy," because trust me, I'm there often, I want you to stop, reflect on the 10%, instead of the 90% and realize that our kids are navigating through a world of emotions. Sometimes those behaviors have more meaning behind them than we realize. Sometimes they need a time out, just like we do. And sometimes they need your undivided attention in a world full of distractions. We've got this mommas!




Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Snow Days....for Real

  Expectation Reality Screaming yelling and fighting by 8:30 a.m.  Mom chugging coffee.  Dad trying to have work calls while trying to pretend there isn't screaming in the background. Dog paw prints all over the floors.  Instant headache.  Thinking about having a good cry.  Kicking the kids outside.  Kid takes snowball to the face. More tears.  All of the deep breaths. Trying to maintain my work ethic.  Longing for spring and realizing it's very far away.  Wishing I was in my quiet office.  Setting a time to drink wine. 
Post a Comment
Read more

Dancing Around Your Thoughts

Today I looked in the mirror and thought "good grief my eyes look so tired today." It's one of those days where there's just not enough concealer and you need that second or third cup of coffee. Most of my blogs are typically silly and about rocking the mom life. Don't get me wrong. I absolutely love it and wouldn't change it for the world. But we are all human and there are just certain things that can start to eat at you when kept within. Sometimes when you hold your emotions in, because you literally can't let it out in front of your littles, it can make you feel like you are going to explode. It can make you freaking crazy. In those moments, I tend to take mine and channel them into a good sweat. But sometimes we just need to talk things out. One of the toughest aspects of my current stage of mom life is when you have something on your heart. Whether you are dealing with some crazy emotions, someone you care about has hurt your feelings, you've...
Post a Comment
Read more

The Last Firsts

At this time last year, this day felt so far away! My girls are turning one in just two days! Some might say "We made it!" And while I'm so incredibly proud of not only myself and my husband for raising two precious baby girls at the same time, I'm also so proud of these two beauties and who they are becoming. This time last year I couldn't wait for them to arrive. I was miserably pregnant, hot and just ready for the next phase in our lives. Now I look back and think to myself, that was the last time that I would ever experience pregnancy. Everything that we've experienced over this last whirlwind of a year was for the last time. I remember leaving the maternity ward in a wheelchair with our new bundles in tow. I looked back and my eyes filled with tears, because having spent so much time there last year for testing, I got to know the nurses and I realized that I wouldn't be back.  Everyone told us how challenging this would be; that raising two babies w...
Post a Comment
Read more